QuestionLet me first say that I am menopausal have been married for 18 years, and have 3 children ranging 15 13 10. I have always been the giver in the partnership accepting decisions whether I liked them or not. Finances were left to me to pay for clothes education doctors etc. I very rarely went anywhere but my husband had all freedom my fault I didnt say anything
Since menopause I started to resent all I was doing and began to object to the fact that every sat night he spent in the pub with his friends . He is not willing to give this up. I cant agree
Can you help me
Stephanie Byrne
AnswerHi Stephanie~
There is a saying "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." In a sense that is a very accurate and true statement. As you can't make a person change if they aren't willing to change themselves or their behavior. You either accept it or you don't.
Since he gets his time with the guys. It's only fair that you get time with the girls or time to yourself away from the children, him and the household responsiblities as well. What's good for him, is good for you too. If he doesn't like it, then well, that's tough. He either needs to give a little or you are going to take your time whether he likes it or not. As I said before, it's only fair that you get time away too. He needs to understand this somehow.
You just have to stand up for yourself. With everything that you do for him and the family, it's only right that you get some sort of weekly break that you can look forward too doing. If he can't see that, then he certainly doesn't respect you or what you do for him and the family. And this can be a big problem to deal with. It's a matter of finding out how to work these issues out, if possible.
If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.
