QuestionHello,
My husband and I have been married about a year and half. I wouldn't
say that our marriage has been difficult, but it hasn't been all that
easy either. We are what most people say a opposites attract couple,
however it seems like our opposites are really beginning to clash now. I
know he's going through a stressful time at work, but he seems to take
it out on me. I realize that as his wife and the woman he comes home
to every night, I should be there to listen and consoles his worries and
fears, however its becoming too difficult.
He sees himself as the "nice guy" and feels he has no wrong part in any
of our arguments. If ever we have a disagreement, he starts blaming
me, not for the disagreement, but for being the wrong type of woman. If
i ever get upset about something he has said or done, he gets angry at
me, for getting upset at him.
It used to only be slightly larger things that brought us to this
argument point, but now its everything, from doing the laundry to dinner.
Most of the time I try to stay quite and let his temper die down.
However I'm at a point where i feel i can't keep quite any longer. I have to
defend myself with some sort of reply. This only elevates things. I'm
starting to think that perhaps our marriage might have been a
mistake...
I'll take any advice.
Thanks!
AnswerHi Nadia~
I would suggest that you try some counseling for the issues in the marriage. A counselor can give you tips, hints and advice on what to do when you have disagreements, arguements, etc. It can also help you to deal with him when he gets upset and wants to argue. I've been to marriage counseling before and it can be a tremendous help. If he refuses to go, then he's only hurting himself and the marriage. But at least you can go for yourself to cope with all that's going on in the marriage.
If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.
