QuestionI have been with my husband for 5 years, we have a 2 year old and I am 5 months pregnant. This week, after I asked a question which annoyed my husband (if he could make me a piece of toast since he was making one for himself), he went ballistic and said that he no longer found me attrative and had no respect for me. He said that all i do is nag him and he's sick of it.
A couple weeks ago he was talking about feeling a "residual hatred" for me.
In the past couple of years he has mentioned several times that when we argue he wishes that he had married one of his previous girlfriends, who were all better looking than me. He frequently mentions that his past girlfriends were all hotter than me.
After his latest outburst I asked him to move out, which he has done. He thinks we should go to counselling, something I have suggested many times before. However, this time, I feel so hurt that I cannot see any future for us. I feel that he is a superficial, immature and selfish person who only suggests trying to make it work because he HATES wasting money - his first objection to seperate households was the cost.
I don't believe he is a decent person or he would not have said the things he has. I have no problem with criticisms related to how I act, but what can I do about how I look? (I am fit, slim and take pride in my appearance).
Is there any point in me making an effort to save a marriage with a man who seems heartless and cruel? Obviously life is going to be harder for me without his help when the baby comes but is this a reason to stay with him?
AnswerI sense that your issue falls into the 'relationship' and 'sexuality' and not 'attractiveness'.
I therefore definitely recommend counseling prior to filing for a divorce.
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Regards,
Dr. Joseph Abraham
http://www.dr-joseph.com
