Questionis there anyway to work it out? whys he doing this to us?
-------------------------------------------
The text above is a follow-up to ...
-----Question-----
my husband of 2mos is a mommas boy and a alcoholic. hes 36. im 31 and have a2yr old son who loves us both very much. my monster in law hates me she kicked me an my son out of her home where we were living until we could do differant. my husband was drunk then and slapped me. we now are in a battered wemons shelter and ive wroten him letters begging him to give us a chance.he has no phone. i call his friends place he says he was wanting to work things out 3 days later he filed for a devorce. i love my man. hes listening to his overcontroling mom.she kicked us out because i told him to quit sucking mommys tit. he told his brother and he told her. ipray every night. hes all the family we have.when hes not drinking hes so good to me. what can i do now?
-----Answer-----
Hello Lynn,
In your first line to me, you tell it all.He is not going to change.Your MIL didn't kick out her son, but you and her grandson.These people are not family.
The womens shelter you are in, is more of a family then what you had with him and his mother.Talk with their counselor.Get local help from SRS and see about going on with your life without him.
Your husband slapping you was just the beginning.The abuse would have escalated over time.
Unlike 20 years ago, there are many programs to help women get back on their feet.Talk with the people at the shelter about your situation.You will find that once you have decided to move forward without your abusive husband,they can be of great help to you.
Rita
AnswerHi Lynn,
The only way to work this out is professional counseling.He will have to attend regularly and so will you.I doubt that you will get him to agree to this.
It sounds like you are doing all the contacting.He lied to you when he said he wanted to work things out then filed for a divorce.
Think about you and your child now.Do you really want to live with a MIL that hates you,a man that drinks,abuses,lies and who knows what else?How long before the abuse is applied to your son?If your son is abused,you will lose him.Is this man really worth that?
Please seek counseling with a minister or professional to help you deal with this situation.
Rita
