QuestionMy husband thinks I am cheating on him.
1.A few months back I submitted an inquiry for a friend who was having an affair. She asked me for guidance and I didn't know what to tell her so I submitted a request to AllExperts. My husband found the email and now he thinks that I was the one having the affair.
2. Furthermore, my husband and I have been having a long distance relationship because he is in Med school. We have been apart for almost 4 years now and went to counceling on his 2nd year of school. In the 3rd year, we were constantly arguing and in some occassions he said he loved me but not in love with me. I was frustrated, angry, and depressed. I started going on a singles adult website and made a few male friends. He found out about this too and now acts like he hates me but I felt like he didn't love me and I wanted him to feel hurt like me.
3. Now my husband, whom I love with all my heart wants a divorce and I want to save my marriage. I believe that he may still feel something somewhere and that I can change for the better to make it work beteen us. Is this a lost case? Am I wasting my time? I need him. I love him.
4. He says he doesn't trust me. How can I gain his trust. I have been faithful forever.
5. We have an 8 year old and have been together for almost 10 years now.
Please help!!!!!
AnswerWell trust is a fragile thing, even more fragile when so much distance separates you. Being apart for four years has taken it's toll. I don't think you can re-gain the time you've been apart, but if you haven't been deceitful there is nothing to re-gain. I would end the chatting with your internet "buddies" and continue being the wife and mother you have been for 10 years. If things are over, they're over, and if not then they're not. At any rate you can't control someone else's feelings. Be who you are and who you have been, and let the chips fall where they may.
Bill
