QuestionHi. Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. However, I want to improve our sex life even more but first let me tell you a little about us. First of all, most people would say that I wear the "pants" in our relationship (I make more money than my husband does, I make all the key decisions, and my husband takes longer to get ready in the washroom than I do). :)
So, my husband's more of the sensitive type and I really like that about him. However, when it comes to sex, I want him to be more aggressive and I don't know exactly how to tell him this. Well actually, I don't want him to just be a little more aggressive (I want him to completely dominate me). My biggest fantasy that I have is that I want my husband to piss on me but I don't know if it'll ever happen. Me and husband don't have arguments a lot but when we do, he always gives in and lets me "win". During one of our arguments, I want him to just call me a bitch and tell me to shut up, grab me by my hair, stick his penis in my mouth, and start throatfucking me. I know that this is really extreme but I can't stop thinking about it. Then, I want him to slap me with his dick a few times and then eventually piss all over me.
I want to tell my husband about this fantasy but I don't know he'll react. And I know that if he agrees to do it, it won't excite me as much as if it "just happened" but it's better than nothing. First of all, I want to know if my fantasy is normal or not. Second of all, do you think I should tell my husband or just keep it to myself forever? By the way, the main part of my fantasy isn't my husband pissing on me (so, I don't think I have a fetish for urine). The main part that turns me on is my husband interrupting me in a rude way by putting his dick in my mouth. For example, when I'm talking about my day and my husband doesn't want to hear about it (I can sense that sometimes) or when I'm lecturing him about something he did wrong, I want him to just shove his penis in my mouth to get me to shut up (and I'd start sucking his penis and we would go on from there). So, do you think I should tell my husband about my fantasy or is it too weird to ever let him know about it? Thanks for helping.
AnswerHi Julie~
That is a very strange fantasy for you to have, it's definitely not typical either. It's more taboo b/c of the nature and how graphic you'd like your husband to be with you. If he's the type of personality that's timid and meager around you, then he could possibly be offended that you have this fantasy and you actually want to live this out in a sexual way. But then again, if you're agreeing with it, he could be turned on by some of it. It's really hard to say how he'd react if you told him this. The reaction would be one of two ways though. A) He's be repulsed by it and embarrassed that you asked him to do it, or brought it up to him. Or B) He could be turned on by it, and agree to do it. You'll honestly never know how he'll react or what he'll say unless you tell him. He might feel funny in actually going through with the role playing that you've described. As long as your comfortable asking him and bringing this subject up with him, then talk to him about it. You're not going to know unless you try. You might be surprised by his response. As for you wanting to dominate you sometimes, be careful about that, if you give a man leeway to dominate and demean you he might begin to like it and then his personality and demeanor can eventually change. So if you like how he acts now with you and by you being in charge and "wearing the pants" be careful how you approach him and word your request of him. If that makes any sense whatsoever. After all you don't want this "power" or "dominance" over you to go to his head (no pun intended), and then he starts treating you like crap in the relationship b/c he likes it.
Instead of going into great detail why don't you just word it in a way that he can do it and then you can see if he's interested in playing a more dominate role sexually with you. You can suggest some sex fantasy role playing to him too. Another thing is you don't have to use words with him and request him to be that dirty to you, but you can take the initiative and physically do as you already described earlier. This way you don't have to come out right and ask him, but you can show him with your actions and motions. And perhaps he won't feel as silly or embarrassed, etc. Or you could just start a conversation with him and casually bring up each others fantasies in a discussion, and tell him yours and ask him if he has any fantasies and if so what would they be, etc, etc. I hope this helps you some.
