Troubled Marriage After Having a Child: Seeking Solutions

Question
I love my wife of 11 years..almost 3 years ago we had a son that we were trying for years to have.  Since this our marriage has gone down hill.  We have sex every 6 months which I'm not happy with and it is not all that great anyway.  She has asked me to do more around the house, and I have to the point she tells me to relax.  Most anything she asks I do or try to do.  Nothing is ever good enough which she tells me all the time that my best is not good enough.  We both work long hours.  She is always tired expect when her friends call.  Then she can go out until when ever, leaving me with our son that night and the next day while she sleeps.  We have seen a marriage counselor and stopped after the counselor saying to my wife, she may think of getting counseling just for her issues.  She fliped out.  I think my wife is not all their sometimes and throws things around the room.  I love my wife and she does have a lot of great things about her.  But I don't feel loved or wanted and I think she thinks we should stay together for our son.  Show I get out?  

Answer
Hi Bill~

If she absolutely refuses to get help for her anger issues or depression (which to me is sounds possible she has both).  Then that leaves you with no alternative, but to consider a separation and possible divorce in the future.  She has to first acknowledge that she has a problem.  Secondly she has to be willing to seek the help that she needs in order to deal with the problem(s).  

See, a person can only take so much of something before they break.  The question here is when is your breaking point?  How long do you continue to stay and put up with her behavior?  Whatever decision you make isn't going to be an easy one.  

I'm a firm believer in that one should never stay in a marriage for the sake of the children.  It never works out in the end.  And often times it makes the whole situation that much worse.  

You should go with your heart and do what's right for you and your son.  You deserve to be happy, and if you stay with her you're only going to be miserable.  Until you're ready to decide what to do--all you can do is to take it one day at a time.  

If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.