QuestionI actually have a lot of problems in my marriage and have a lot of questions for you. But I will start with this one.
My husband told me he wants to talk to other girls on the internet. We met on the internet and it kind of has me worried. Before and even a bit after we were married he talked to a lot of girls usually ending up as more than friends. Shouldnt I be a little worried that its going to happen again? Nothing happened after we were married but plans were made with other girls. He says I need to learn to trust him. He doesnt want real life friends as I have told him we could go out and meet people. He could become friends with guys and do guy things. But he says no to all my ideas. He just wants the right to talk to other girls on the internet. He wants on line girls as friends. Arent I enough? Am I being too cautious? Please give me your thoughts on what I should do.
We do not really talk any longer, sex is nada. Its been that way for a while. He says hes too stressed and wants a release. I have tried numerable times, and numerable different ways to change things and make things better. It doesnt seem to work. He says I have been doing a lot better about everything but hes still to stressed out. I just want to feel closer to him. Ive lost weight, ive bought sexy clothes, and while he was jealous of my walking out in them he didnt say anything. I dont know what to do anymore. Ive spent the last 3 months, reading, studying and losing my pride to fix this. Divorce is not an option. Id just like to see inside his head and understand
AnswerHello Amber,
Yes,you should be worried.What kind of plans did he make with online girls after you were married??He doesn't want real live friends?
You have reason to be concerned.Not talking,no sex and he says nothing works?What is he stressed out about?
He doesn't want real friends and you don't want a divorce.Time for a counselor to figure out what is going on.
Either your minister or a professional.If he won't go,you go.
Don't change yourself for him.He doesn't care.He is in his own little make believe world.It would be interesting to read what he has written all these so called online girl friends.Just what does he have to talk about?More then likely,he is complaining about you,his marriage and how he is so misunderstood.
He has major issues hon,and they aren't you.Maybe a separation would show you his true self.If he really loves and cares for you,he would not want to be separated.If he is too involved in his online, make believe world and doesn't care what you do,then you will know.
I believe you when you say in your first sentence to me, that you have a lot of problems in your marriage.Without counseling they will only get worse.As I stated above,he has a lot of issues that only a professional can help you with.
Rita
