Questionwell i think you are right, but i am not marrying her now may be when she turns 18. i will be 28 then
one thing i dont understand is if she loves me y does she chase other guyz
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i am really confused!
there is this girl aged 16 who is a cousin of mine, she loves me or may
be infactuation and want to marry me, but she is not as qualified as me
and her lifestyle is not as modern as mine. but the problem with her is
that many guyz have teased her in the past and she is to be blamed for
that cos my other relatives say she make pass at other guyz.
i think i am in love with her but want to propose her for marriage
only.
i am afraid she will not be faithful to me in the future, so please
tell me shud i marry her or no
i think she will change after she will marry me. but if she doesn't
then
every one in my family is against the marriage except her parents cos
she definately want her daughter to marry a well off and qualified
family.
and please also tell me if i can change the girl to adjust into my
family
main problem is i dont want her to make pass at other guyz after
marriage.
i dont want lose her and regret all my life
please help
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Hi Rehaan~
The biggest problem that you'll have is that no 16 yo is mature at that age. In fact 16 yo's are very immature and often take years to grow up and act their age. She's not ready to be married at that young of an age.
And if you marry her when she acts immature--such as chasing after other guys, then you'll have problems in the marriage. Which could ultimately end in a divorce, and that's something that you don't want to happen.
So my advice is--now is definitely not the right time to marry her. Maybe down the road, if she can grow up and mature (not chasing after other guys all the time, etc), then she might be ready for marriage. Marriage is a huge responsiblity for anyone.
At this point it's better to wait and see what happens, than to rush into a marriage that you might end up regreting later. Something to think about anyway.
AnswerHi Rehaan~
It's b/c she's 16 and immature. A 16 yo girl is only into chasing guys. They're into dating, gossping with their friends, hanging out with friend, shopping, etc. As she gets older, then she'll mature more, and possibly be ready to settle down and commit to just you and marry you. Trust me you don't want to marry someone when they aren't really ready for it, b/c it'll end up in divorce over time.
