QuestionI have read the artical on what was written and what you've answered about the husband not being intimate. The one thing that I constantly do, is talk about it. More than usual. But talking just isn't working for me. You see, my husband and I been together for eight years and only married for seven months. I talked till I'm blue in the face, and yet nothing. I do feel that looking for someone who can take that urge away will do it, but I'm hurting too much to be that selfish, but are relationship, I feel, is just platonic.
AnswerHi Michy~
Instead of telling him, why don't you try showing him what you'd like and need in the bedroom. Just a thought. This way he'll get an idea of what you want him to do. You need to be brutally honest with him and tell him that you're very tempted to go outside the marriage, but that you won't b/c you're not like that, but the temptation is still there and very real. It's the principal of the matter here, and he needs to know that you've been pushed to that point of wanting to search outside the relationship for some sexual gratification and most of all the attention that someone will pay/give to you. Everyone needs some sort of love, attention and affection from their spouse/partner to know that they are loved, wanted, needed, desired, etc. Otherwise, you don't have much of a physical relationship if the connection and chemistry just aren't there anymore.
He must either just doesn't get it or he simply doesn't care what's happening in the marriage. And therefore he's not willing to give you what you want, need, desire, deserve and expect in this marriage. You have to make these needs and wants crystal clear to him. And, well, if he still refuses, then you have to make a decision on what you're going to do about this. I don't really know what else to suggestion other than what I've already said. You have some choices and decisions to make about your future though.
