QuestionI'm 27, my husband is 30. We've been married for about 3 years and dated
for about 3 years prior to marriage. I lived a very sheltered life before I met
my husband and am somewhat of a homebody. My husband is very "worldly"
and has hundreds of friends from his past. Lately, my husband has been
acting differently. He seems to be depressed sometimes with money issues
and easily gets offended when I'm not in "the mood". A few months ago, he
accused me of cheating on him. I love my husband very very much and have
never cheated on him and I never would. What could be causing this change
in him? He's got a loving family, lots of friends, a wife who loves him and a
good life. We've been having money problems, but nothing serious, and we
don't fight about money. Is my husband depressed? Why would he accuse
me of cheating on him? Should I be concerned that he's cheating on me?
AnswerThe tendency to "fight or flight" at times of crisis brings many to be both aggressive and passive / depressed at the same time.
You should continue to be emotionally supportive (intimacy, sex and leasure sport activities are the best home made remedies) but never get into the defensive position of denying accusation. Encourage your husband to take immediate counseling and also vocational / financial guidance.
Regards,
Dr. Joseph Abraham
dr-joseph.com
