QuestionI'm 25 and my husband's 27. We've been together since we were 18.
Today I heard that he'd posted a photograph of himself in his briefs/boxer shorts on a dating website from a friend in work.
I've seen the profile on the site - but my husband said he didn't create the page, and he has no interest in dating or social networking websites anyway, he told me (and I believe him too!)
I have a Facebook and Twitter, but he's not into using those sites.
He said he would never do anything like this - and is worried he is being bullied.
He's also told his boss, who promised to look into it, but it's been 4 weeks since he reported the incident, and the site is still up, with yet more photos being posted. The boss seems to have taken little interest in it, according to my husband.
What can we do about this?? it's causing him stress and he's worried about getting up in the morning but still goes into work anyway.
My husband is getting stressed every single day over this.
AnswerHi Karla~
I'm a little bit skeptical on his excuse that he knows nothing about this and he's not the one who's not posting on this dating site to begin with. I've seen and heard way stranger things than this though. First off you need to ask him who and how would someone have a picture of him in his underwear to begin with. Secondly, IF this is the case, then why are they posting this on a dating web site. On most dating web sites they don't permit racy photos such as this anyway. Thirdly what is the motive behind this person posting this (there has to be a reason behind this and how they got the pictures in the first place). That's something you need to be asking him and yourself too. Most importantly let's give him the benefit of doubt and say he is telling you the truth (but there are just some things not adding up and making sense to me), if this dating web site is running photos w/o his permission by someone else, that's fraud. You can contact the web site and file a complain with them and they can take the pictures down and even close the account if you insist to them, they usually comply and will do as you ask. They can also trace and find out who this person really posting on that account is (although they might not tell you who it is for confidential reasons or if it's their policy). They can also turn this over to the proper authorities too. There are ways you can go about finding out who this is and why they are doing it. I'd check your husband's reasons very thoroughly. Are you sure that he didn't do this on his own, or take risque pictures with someone and they are using it as black mail against him. There is a reason behind this, you just have to do some investigating on your own perhaps and get to the bottom of all this.
