Navigating Marital Distress: Seeking Support After a Husband's Confession

Question
Help Please...Advice needed...My husband told me a week ago that he was unhappy and he didn't know if he wanted to be with me anymore.  This took me completely by surprise. Our marriage has been strained for a long time now.  Our sex life is non existent and he has said that we are more like roommates. I know that things have not been good for awhile, but I never thought that it would come to this. I recently had a miscarriage and have gone through a deep depression. I have tried to explain this to him, but he says that he was unhappy even before the miscarriage. I guess that I took it for granted that he would love me no matter what. Ever since he told me, I have went out of my way to show him that I love him, but he seems uninterested. I think that he is past the breaking point and there is no saving our marriage. I have mentioned counseling, but he doesn't seem interested. I try to talk to him, but my emotions take over and I either cry or get angry because it seems hopeless.  I am starting to think that it might be best for him if I just let him go, but this is the last thing that I want to do. Is there any hope...I feel so desperate and confused.  

Answer
Hello Lisa,
 Ask him again to at least try counseling.Keep talking to him but don't cry or get angry.If he acts like he is not listening,then leave him alone for a few hours.Don't badger him.If he won't attend counseling and won't listen then ask him,"What do you want in this marriage??"
  You will have to let go if he doesn't want to stay.I know you are in a depression about the miscarriage,but it's time to take back your life.Part of your depression is the lack of support you should be getting from your husband.
  Even if he won't go to a counselor,you go.After the loss you have went through and the problems in your marriage,talking with someone else will help.Ministers are very good about making house calls.If your husband is at home,he may stay and participate.Probably not,but it is worth a try.
  Give it your best and if the marriage won't make it,don't put all the blame on yourself.There are two people in a marriage and both have to work at it.
  Rita