QuestionMy husband is 57 and I am 43, we have been married 22 years. We have a solid marriage but his jealousy of our children, ages 20 and 18 just baffles me.
He complains when I do anything for them. He bullies them into fights like a brother rather than a father. He resents their relationship with me.
They both work and go to college so it is not like they are my life or that I am with them all the time. They have their own lives and come and go. They both pay their way for their responsiblities. Our daughter has helped us financially in more ways than I can count.
I love him dearly but I find this so unattractive and masculine.
AnswerYou need to have this conversation with him and get his promise to stop bullying. He may be insecure about loss of caring perhaps coming from his own childhood, and he may lack parenting skills. Try to get him to talk about where his behaviour comes from so that all cards are on the table...this should help the situation. If he could apologize to the kids when he gets out of hand, that would be ideal.
