QuestionI am so unhappy in my relationship. We have been together for 5 years and we have know children together, he has a 11 yearold son from another relationship and I have a 8 year old son. I can not t alk to him, because he never whats to here it, he walks away and says that I am nagging him. He never says hes wrong or acknowledges he is wrong and that drives me mad. When we get into arguments he brings up things from 5 years ago, or if he is really wrong he says I don't apreshaite him. We argue about money and sex, if I kiss him, or want to hug and cuttle he wants sex. If I have a migrain he wants sex, if I don't have sex with him at least once in the week then its the end of the world. Because of all this I don't even have the desire anymore, I don't even want to be affectionate with him because thats all he wants. I have no friends or no outlet....all I do is work 8 hours in my office, then I pick up myson form school, go home, cook, help his son and my son with homework and studding, clean and by the end of the day I am drained and he wants sex. I am so angry all the time, I use to be so happy, so motivated, so out going...now I am depress and mad all day everyday. How can I be happy again? How can I feel the way I did for my husband before? How do I get the heat back? Right now I just really don't like him at all, I do n't even want to talk or be around him.
AnswerWhen a marriage gets this far gone, you really need some family counseling and a plan to work on, locally. Both partners need to make a "fix-it" list and sit down and work things out one at a time. If you can get participation you have a chance, if not, not.
Bill
