QuestionI have a series of questions. So, please be patient with me.
Here's the short scenario. I met this guy by the name of Lou, through my sister, from the internet. At the time, I was suicidal and in a big mess from a traumatic experience I had previous to talking to him. Lou was in a big mess aswell. We kinda hit it off from there and started talkin' on an almost every day basis. That was back in august. Not until about October did we realize the actual love we have for eachother. We've made a lot of plans since then. We plan on movin' in with eachother, gettin' married, goin' to college, and startin' a family. Lou's 19 and I'm 18 and still a Senior in high school, which by the way, I graduate this year (2006). Also, he's in New York and I'm in Ohio. My father's okay with him, but my mother, she changes. One day she likes him, the other she doesn't. It's the same with with his parents. It's driving me nuts. I hardly have any encouragement from anyone and neither does he. The only thing that's been keeping us together is the feelings we have for eachother, at which we would bring to surface and call "love".
Now, for the questions:
Basic 101 (Ignore this set if you want):
1) His parents won't take the time to get to know me and they're already judging me. How can I get them to like me?
2) His parents, aswell as mine, are hindering him from seeing me. How can this stop?
3) He wants me to move in with him 'cause he has a good job and everything going for him in NY. Me, on the other hand, I have nothing here, but would find it difficult to adapt. I'm from the country and he's from the city. How can this work for me?
4) When I do go to leave, how do I explain this to everyone, especially my twin? It's hard to leave her.
5) How am I suppose to survive (even though he has so much money it makes me sick) without knowing how to drive (I don't have my license), I don't have a bank account, nor do I have a job to save up money?
6) We don't know how to express our love any other way except through "I Love You's" and a lot of phone sex. There has to be another alternative. I mean, I send him cards, e-mails, and such, but it's kind of getting old.
More In Depth 101:
1) How do I find out what type of birth control is best for me? I really don't want on the pill, nor could I afford the shot. I need something that's like a "one day" use. His dr. tells him that he's 10 x more likely to get a girl pregnant than any other guy 'cause of the amount cum he produces, aswell as his healthy eating habits. I know I won't be able to resist him when we meet and I don't want a child just yet.
2) My mother would flip if she found out I was havin' sex. I have to tell my dr. if I'm sexually active and if I asked her to leave the room, she'd know. Is there any way around this?
3)I don't meant to sound stupid or anything, but when having sex, do you have to help guide your guy in or does it just go in?
That's all for now. Thank you for your time.
Mucho Amor De Ohio,
~*Uvernona*~
AnswerVery interesting story. I'm sure most of it is either untrue or a fantasy for one or both of you. If you were my daughter I would take away the computer, the phone and homeschool you until you regained your senses.
Since I'm not, my only recommendation is that you quit talking to him, finish high school, get a job and figure out who you are and what you want out of life. You do not love him, he does not love you.
Your parents presumably have your bests interests at heart and I would confide in them that you are tempted to throw your life away on a dream and ask them to help you resist this temptation. You need to find more important things to do than attach yourself to a man/boy at your age.
