Husband's Yahoo Personals History: Addressing Infidelity Concerns

Question
I have been happily married for the past 13 months.  Recently I borrowed my husbands computer and for some reason I check his internet history.  To my suprise I found out that he had been looking at yahoo personals in our area. I have been cheated on before and this incident really hurt me.  I asked him about it and he took full responsibility and stated that he was bored and just happened to look at it.  However, he has been doing it at least for the past three weeks.  I want to believe him, but I do not know what to do.  He is 17 years older than me.  All he said is that man are stupid and he had nothing in mind.  He is 55 should I give him another opportunity?  Should I believe him?

Answer
Hi Alicia~

If he's not given you any reason to not trust him, then give him the benefit of doubt here.  I know that when I've been completely bored, I've done that.  And I'm a married woman.  But I'd never ever cheat on my husband or even think about it.  I was just bored and curious to see what kind of ppl are looking at the dating ads.  It could be very innocent.  But I can totally see how you'd get the wrong impression here by him doing this.  

If there's been no change in his regular habits or his behavior, that's gives you a reason to suspect he might be unfaithful to you, then he's probably just looking at them (the ads) out of curiousity.  Since this really is bothering you though.  You need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him about this and let him know how this makes you feel.  When you do this, do it in a nonconfrontational way though.  Otherwise, he'll clam up, get defensive and refuse to talk to you.  Just tell him how this is making you feel and that you'd prefer if he didn't do this again.  If he loves and respects you, then he'll abide by your wishes.  

If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.