QuestionI have been married for 4 years... i love my husband very much... i'm not happy with him all the time though.. we start having many problem... we just bought a house..far from city.. far from people i know.. my husband always go out and drink at neighbor house... his friends house....he hardly home... i work pretty far from home.... i come home cook.. clean... i'm tired.. i don't want to go and hang out anywhere during weekday.... i want to spend time with my husband... but he hardly home...i don't get along very well with his friend because they always drink and do crazy stupid things... his friends is 20s something.... my husband is 30s something..
we don't like the same things....i always home.... i'm not really socialize..... i used to go out all the time before i met him..... not any more.... people think i'm a bitch... but i'm not... i don't know what my husband tell his friends or neighbor..but almost every time when i go there i feel like i ruin party.. they dont want me there.....i don't have anybody much that i know here..... i feel hopeless..... i don't mind to go out weekend... but not weekday please.. i'm tired... i'm not sure if there is something wrong with me...... or i'm just normal.... in a different world.... i don't want this marriage to end...... but i'm feeling more lonely and lonely every day... help me.... what should i do...
AnswerHello Tina,
You are normal,if there is such a thing.Talk to him about spending more time with you at home.If he says no,tell him it is time to talk to a counselor about your marriage.
I understand that you are tired at night,don't try to change the weekdays for him.All it will do is put you in a bad mood.On the weekends if he wants to go out with his friends go along and visit with the people.You are just new to the area and it will take some time to make new friends.
If his friends and you don't hit it off,find some of your own.Whatever hobbies or things that you are interested in, try to find others that have the same interests.
Join a neighborhood watch,church group,or volunteer your services to organizations such as a Hospice group.
Keep yourself occupied.
The first 7 years are the hardest in a marriage.It is a time to adapt to each others needs.
All you can do is try your best.If nothing else talk with your minister about the marriage.They are very good listeners and can help more then you know.
Rita
