Navigating Differing Expectations in Early Marriage & Parenthood

Question
My husband and I have been married for 5 months and have a 3 1/2 month old baby.  We were engaged before the pregnancy, but ended up getting married hurriedly because of it.  We have been together for 3 1/2 years total.  I am 31 years old and he is 25. I recently graduated with my Bachelor's in Nursing and he does not have a college degree.  The problem is this:  we moved to Indiana a week after the baby was born to be close to my family.  (I have been away for 15 years).  My parents hired him at their heating and air company and agreed to teach him the trade.  We have been here for only 3 months and he has decided that he hates it and wants to go to Orlando for Marine Mechanic School for a year, leaving me and the baby here until he finishes.  I am not happy about this because we are living in my parents' basement supposed to be saving up to buy a house and now that's put on hold.  He wants to move somewhere else after he finishes school, possibly Florida or Texas.  I DO NOT want to move anywhere.  I am happy being close to my mother and appreciate her help with the baby.  I DO NOT want to take my child away where we don't know anyone and have to put him in the care of strangers when I have to go to work.  See, I will always be the main bread winner of this family and don't see the point of following my husband to wherever his $15/hr job takes him.  It's ridiculous to me.  As a wife, am I supposed to follow him wherever he goes?  No matter what happens, one of us is going to be unhappy.  If I had known about his little pipe dream before we got married, I wouldn't have married him.  It seems as soon as we had the baby, he all of a sudden has all these things he wants to do.  I have done so much in my life thus far, living all over, having fun.  Now I have a baby and it is time to settle down.  It seems as if he feels the opposite.  As a married woman, what am I supposed to do?

Answer
Alison,

I sense that your issue falls into the 'power struggle' or 'appropriate status' between partners.

I don't see how it is possible to provide a professional opinion without talking and listening to each of you; it means one session with each and a joint session. Thereafter you and your husband may find that a short counseling would help to establish a balanced marriage life.


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Regards,
 
Dr. Joseph Abraham
 
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