Navigating Emotional Infidelity: Signs, Impact & Healing

Question
I have learned that while my husband and I were dating there was always some woman that he kept in contact with via email or phone. I even found that he sent me and another woman the same email one Christmas. Now that we are married it bothers me and I have told him but he keeps doing the same thing and lying about what he is doing. We have only been married for 1 year and a half. Just recently I found the number of a female in his phone that he calls when he is at work or when he leaves to go to the store. There are no signs of physical infideliy, but emotional infidelity is just as bad. I just don't trust him. What should I do?

Answer
Hi Keena~

Emotional infidelity is just as bad as physical infidelity.  It's the ultimate betrayal of trust in a marriage or relationship.  Why does he feel the need to talk to these women when he's married to you?  And why does he keep avoiding the issue?  You have every right to know what he's up to and what he's hiding from you.  It's just not right for him to do this to you.  

I would confront him about it,and insist that he tell me what's going on.  If he doesn't answer you or tries to get around answering you. Then I would give him an ultimatum.  Either he tell you what's going on,an answer that will satisfy you so that you believe him,or I would insist on a separation.  You can't have a good,loving marriage w/o trust and respect.  He at least owes you an explaination of what he's up to.

If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.