QuestionMy wife recently took her ring off in a fight. There is no issue with money, adultery, or abuse, just fighting. She says she has become numb and we're now trying to rescue things from a divorce. I am fully on board and motivated to treat her the way she needs to be treated. The whole thing was a rude awakening. I just need to know any tips there might be for rescuing a marriage on the verge. And we have 2 kids.
AnswerHi Robert~
I would strongly suggest that you seek some marriage counseling. This way you can figure out what issues and problems need to be worked out and how to fight fair. The biggest thing is communication in a marriage. You have to learn to be able to talk to your spouse and tell each other how you're feeling about certain things. And then you need to come up with a compromise on how to make things better.
If you've ever heard of Dr Phil, which I'm sure you have. He's got some great books. One of them is called Relationship Rescue (he also has a workbook to go with it). It can be found in any reputable book store or even on his web site at www.drphil.com . I've read it and it's a great book. There is also another book I've read called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It's written by a man called John Gray, it explains the differences between men and women. It's very good and informative too. You might want to check it out too. It's a book that helps with relationship problems too.
You have to also learn how to be sensitive to your wife's needs. I know it's not always easy to be sensitive to your partners needs. You need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk. She needs to know how you feel on issues, and vice versa. You could start setting aside a special time per week (say at least once a week, on whatever day you choose together), and air out your differences. When you discuss issues, you want to do it in a nonconfrontational way. This way she's more apt to be open and listen to you. No one wants to talk to someone who's confrontational and in a bad mood. It just makes the situation and conversation worse. If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.
