QuestionI need help! My husband participated in a gift exchange at work. He bought a bottle of wine for the woman whose name he picked. The problem is this he wanted to give it to her in a bag from a well known lingerie store. He felt it would be a funny joke, I disagreed and asked him to use a another package. People at his office know he is married and I felt this to be a tad bit flirtatious. When I told him this he got angry, threw the bag at me and said "Why don't you let me do what I want to do" When I wanted to talk about it he said "Just let it go"
Am I overreacting??
AnswerHi Lee,
I can see his point. I also see your point.
I do see some humor in it. In a public exchange, which I imagine this will be, it will have some humorous reactions, when people see the bag, but of course it is innocent in that it's just a bottle of wine. I do see the humor in it, and think that it is quite inoffensive if thy known each other enough to do something like that. If they work together, then I can see that it may indeed be humorous.
I also understand your point of view, though. I do feel you may be making a little too much of it, because unless it is a private exchange or in some way hidden, then it cannot be seen as more than an attempt at humor.
Perhaps not everyone's humor, but it may be your husbands brand of humor.
If you expressed your thoughts on the matter, I don't think you should push it. In the end, if it is seen as something out of line, then I'm sure others will most definitely make it known and he'll have to deal with it.
I wouldn't do something like that myself if it upset my wife, so on the other hand, he could also choose to play another joke on the person if he really needs to.
It's a matter of how seriously you want to see this issue, really.
regards,
don.
