QuestionMy husband and I have been married for 6 months, we have a almost 2 year old daughter. on Friday night my husband got a call from a girl saying hey i was just thinking about you call me. Turns out this is a girl from work that is also having a non-sexual (so far) affair with another married man (my hubbys best friend) I had never heard of her before but her and my hubby have been calling and texting eachother, he said they are just friends but he didnt want to tell me because i would get upset. Well i told him her message was inapropriate and she should not be calling a married man at 1 AM. we got in ahuge argument and finally he said he wouldnt talk to her again, well last night he showed me his new phone and told me he had not talked to her, but said he would tell her the message was inapropriate, after he went to bed i looked threw his phone and he had both her home number and cell # under fake names, and he had made 6 calls to her and recieved 3 back. he doesnt get why i am upset?? when i aske him what they talk about he said it was work, but i was like 9 calls? then he said well i wanted to talk to her about a hockey game. This is all in a weeks time, I just feel betrayed, he has been telling me one thing anf doing the other, when i ask him have u talked to her he out right lied and said NO, He is mad at me for snooping, but what else was i to do? I feel so hurt that he keeps talkign to her when he knows i am not comftorable with it. Am i wrong to have checked his phone. he wont apologize he just says bad things to me, and i say them back, i feel like knocking my head againts the wall, how can he not see that lieing to me, and talkign with other single women personally isn't right.?
AnswerHi Lee,
He is lying to you and is acting in a very inappropriate manner. No way he puts a phone number under a fake name for another reason that he needs to hide it. You better sit him down and tell him what the consequences are if he does not immediately take on his role as your husband because this will be a train wreck if you don't. There is NO reason any self respecting woman would call a married man at 1 AM. your husband is lying, there is no doubt in my mind.
Ask him this.....If she is just a friend then why wasn't she introduced and invited to your home to share your presence as well?
Why would he assume you would find something wrong if she was just a friend? Don't we wish to introduce our friends with our spouses? I always do.
Don't let him pull the wool over your eyes.
regards,
Don.
