QuestionHello sir,i want to ask u tht is physical attraction very important in marriage or not.iam nt able to decide.my parents dnt find my boyfrnd gud lukng n thts one of d many reasns they dnt accept hm.i find him smetimes attractive n smetimes not.he has sharp features,thin body n v r of same height.at times i fl attractd 2 othr men.v dnt meet often so mayb thats a reason iam losing my interest in him.i dnt want 2 lose him.he has bn wid me since 5yrs.i dnt want 2 cheat on him.hw do i tell him to improve hs luks n hw do i kp my interest alive?
AnswerHi Jyotsana,
My beautiful younger sister who left home at 18 to go to London England to be a fashion model met a young man there about a year into her stay. He was from Syria, and without wishing to elaborate too much on his looks, suffice it to say that when my mother first met him, she took a step back. He was in no way whatsoever a man that one could call "handsome" or even in any way attractive when one first set eyes upon him. We all saw his picture when mother came back from visiting my sister and most of us wondered why she had chosen this man to be her boyfriend. Of course, at the time, we ourselves were young and did not yet understand the priorities that would come to us much later in life.
Fast forward a bit and let me tell you how things worked out.
Today, more than 20 years later, and after having gotten married, there is not one person I have ever spoken to that could deny that my sister's husband is a beautiful man. The strength of character,integrity, honesty, kindness and generosity that define this man would melt any woman's resistance in a heartbeat.
My sister was smart enough to see these benefits and chose to look past any physical aspects, and she realized at a young age that time would change a shell, but not the basics of what it contained.
They have built a large successful business together, raised two beautiful and intelligent children and are an inspiration to all who know them.
I leave you with this above anecdote, which is the total truth. It is uncanny how your situation applies so nicely to what I have seen develop in my own family.
The decision is yours, and I suggest you always remember where the priorities truly lie when it comes to these things.
kind regards and all the best that life has to offer you,
Don.
