QuestionWhere to start, well my wife and I have been at odds for awhile now, and it came to a head about 2 weeks ago, our neighbor came over to borrow some tools and the wife took him to the garage, I came in to join them and they were exchanging email addresses no big deal, so I thought, about a week after this I was working late and when I got home she was in the computer room was naked and had the camera set up,well she was doing things well just leave it at that, she was so wrapped up in this she did not see me so I walked in only to see mt neighbor on the other end naked as well doing things, she finally sees me is in total shock and tells me to get out. I just stand there she starts yelling at me so I leave. I can hear her say goodbye to this guy and gets dressed and comes out. She looks at me and all she says is what do you want.Long story short she tells me that they have gotten together several times and when they cant they go on the cameras . I am stund so I say if that is what she wants she can go stay with him, she tells me he doesnt want to leave his wife and that they are only having fun, ya at my expense. I tell her that we are done and that she should leave and find somewhere else to live, she wont leave. My big problem is that I travel alot for my work so am not home sometimes for weeks she is still there and is always having him over when I am not home and the camera stuff is on going as well. How do I get her out or is it in my best interest to just leave and get legal help.
AnswerHi Rod~
I don't know about Canadian laws, but in the US (which is where I'm from, and I'd assume Canadian laws are a little similar) you can't kick your spouse out of the home if you're legally married. She has a legal right to be there just as much as you do, there are laws in place to protect husband's and wife's in this sort of situation. However, what you'll have to do, is just what you thought, leave the home and seek legal help. You do have rights and you have to protect yourself at all cost from her and the games she's playing with you. She has to see that you simply will not continue to tolerate and be used by her. She's taking full advantage of you and the situation at hand.
She has to see that you are serious and you will get her out of the home one way or another, or at the very least you will show her that you're not going to be treated in this manner any longer. This is just a game to her and I promise you that this relationship will not last and sooner or later she'll move on to someone else. It's a shame that she's flaunting it right in front of your face. Get out now while you can and cut your losses and move on with your life w/o her in it. It's a shame she has to be this way and ruin the marriage. One day she'll be held accountable for her actions and it will all catch up with her one day in due time. Sure, it's a tough call and decision to make but it's your best one given what she's doing to you and she has no remorse about it at all. I hope this helps you some.
