QuestionHi Samantha,
I really hope you can help me to decode my man. I know, you might think its pretty clear,but its not that easy for me.
little background info:
Our relationship is great,we love each other,we're each other's best friends...he says i complete him and he spoils and treats me like a princess. We're both 26
My bf and I have been going out for 2 yrs and been living together for about the same time.
We talked about marriage briefly this past spring,he even said he looked at the rings. Recently,He got pretty serious, he keeps talking about our kids..he tells he's parents (in front of me) that we will have kids,says I'll be a good mother,looking at baby clothing at every chance he gets..asks me what i think of certain baby names...points at cute babies,so its all about the kids and how great we will be as parents.
My question is,he talks about kids just to trick me into thinking that the proposal its not coming..?? or what is it ... I'm confused,just a baby talk and no marriage??
I don't want to push this talk.. I'm just hoping he has a plan and whats it to surprise me.
advice will be greatly appreciated!!!
AnswerHi Daria~
I have to say that baby talk and all the compliments he's been giving you are a good sign. However, you need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know exactly how this is affecting you and what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this relationship. He needs to know what marriage means to you, and before you even get to seriously talking about children and going any further with this relationship, he has to know what your views on marriage are. And that you want to take the next step and get married before this baby talk, etc goes any further. It is my personal feelings and opinion that if a man can live with you, talk about future babies, then he can put a ring on your finger and make it official and get married. Some men will do this and not even be the least interested in marrying their long time partner. To me, marriage is way more than a piece of paper, I take it very seriously so it means a lot to me. It seems that in this day and age marriage isn't taken very seriously to some people and that's really a shame. Marriage is special and it's to be held sacred. It's two people agreeing to commit before one another and agreeing to spend their lives together, for good/bad, in sickness/health, etc. It's a bond that you share with someone you truly love and that you can't see spending your life w/o them. If that makes any sense whatsoever.
You have to get across to him exactly what marriage and children mean to you. It's important that you both be on the same page and have the same goals in life. You need to be compatible and be committed to spending your lives together. Talk to him and tell him your hopes and dreams. And if he's as wonderful as you describe him to be, then I have no doubt that everything will fall into place. Communication is key in any happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship and marriage. I can't tell you how many people (even though they love each other to death) have a huge, huge problem with communicating with their partners/spouse, etc. I mean you have to know what each other is feeling and thinking in order to have a happy and successful relationship and/or marriage. Just talk to him, things will work out someway, somehow if it's meant to be with him.
