Questionthank you, we just went on vacation and it was the most wonderful time we have ever had but I think the jealousy is almost gone i really have vchanged and she told me that when we were up there, but i keep asking here if she loves me and she keeps telling the same thing and she is getting mad and i know that she loves me i just like to hear but in my heart i know so why do i always need to hear it. sorry i keep babbling on but i also have another question last week before we went on vacation she wanted to have sex but i feel asleep and i knew that she wanted to and tried to stay up but couldn't but she was on the computer till 12:00 and i got tired i tried to stay but couldn't, but i was working all day and up early that morning and i felt bad but this week i tried to and she didn't want to is it because of me or do think she lost her sex drive over the week? thank you again
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what should i do my name is bryon i am 19 and im jealous of my wife who i
have been married to for 2 years but in the begging i was horribly jealous but
now i'm a little better i do more for her now than i ever did i used to never let
her dress the way she wanted to i was a jerk but anyway i want to know how
i can shake the jealousy completely i can't stop think she is cheating on me
and that is stupid because i know she hasn't she has told me she hasn't but
how can i shake the jealousy and the insecurities I am having>
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Hi Bryon~
You have to stop with the jealousy. Otherwise, it's going to ruin your marriage, and it'll end up in divorce, when she can't take your behavior any longer.
I would strongly suggest that you get some individual therapy to help you with the jealousy issue. Perhaps even some anger management classes too. Those can be a tremendous help. Anything is worth going through so she ultimately doesn't leave you.
I do have to commend you on getting better over time though. That's a huge step in its self. So it doesn't seem I'm totally coming down on you here (which I'm not, just giving you some constructive criticism).
AnswerHi Bryon~
You could be suffering from a low self esteem issue. And that's why you constantly need to be reassured by her telling you she loves you. But it's starting to upset her b/c you need to be reassured so much. It's sorta like someone repeatedly asking you the same question over and over, when you've already answered them once. In other words it's anonying.
On the topic of her wanting sex but you were too tired. I'm with you on this one. If she wanted to have sexual relations bad enough then she should've been more accomidating to you, not waiting until you were just exhausted and so tired you couldn't stay awake. So I totally agree with you on this. If she wanted it, then she should've made herself more available, and not playing on the computer so late, that she lost out on that opportunity. That's unreasonable her to expect you to stay awake when you're very tired and worn out.
Her sex drive will probably be just fine. Women's sex drives come and go. Sometimes their in the mood for it, sometimes their not.
