QuestionI work full time and my wife who just finished college is having a hard time getting a job. Her credit is suffering and she's very depressed about it. It affects me very much everytime I see her like that, plus I feel unappreciated. We don't talk the way we use to and she always seem mad at me and only me. Recently I came into contact with an old high school female friend and I've been talking to her in secret, this is where I messed up. I've never cheated on her and have no intention to, I was just lonely and needed someone to talk to. Now she found out and thinks my intentions were different and no longer trust me. I dying inside 'cause I want to hold her and tell her I'm truly hers forever, but she doesn't even look at me, this is now day three. Can you please tell how to get my wife back, I'm all out of ideas
AnswerHi Carson~
At this point all you can do is to be straight up honest with her. Tell her you're sorry for not being forthcoming about the contact and conversations you'd been having with this former friend. And you totally understand that she's mad at you, and in a way you've broken her trust. You have now realized that it was a huge mistake that you made. But that you did this b/c you needed someone to talk to b/c you felt that you couldn't open up and talk to her with her being mad and upset with you in the past.
It might take her a while to get over her anger, but if she loves and respects you, then ultimately she'll believe you and take you for your word. You shouldn't spend the rest of your life trying to live this mistake down--and she should drop it and move on, not throwing it in your face when she gets angry at you for something. She needs to learn to forgive and move forward past this. I'm sure she's made plenty of mistakes in her life, and you'd be more than willing to forgive her for them.
If she just can't, well, then you might have to explore other options, whatever they may be. Hopefully before you know it, she'll be able to forgive you, so that you both can go about your lives.
