Navigating a Recent Breakup: Healing from Hurt and Loneliness

Question
"My fiance broke up with me a few days ago and I am left to feel very sad, angry, resentful, unresolved and lonely...she was my best friend. I kind of see that maybe she had already broken up or was getting there in her heart several months ago but then she was also buying wedding dresses around the same time. She even said that she should not have strung me along. Whatever the reasons and whatever the details of the breakup, I am now faced with accepting her decision and I am trying hard to make a decision of my own to move on as this relationship is over. Sometimes I feel very lonely thinking about how we could have communicated better and tackled the obstacles together...but that's just it, I was trying and I didn't feel she was struggling with making the relationship work but with giving it up. I miss her, love her, made some mistakes just as she did but really showed her that I was, sorry, wanting to change and committed. Apparently that wasn't good enough for her. Also, she cited that she had trust issues with me for somethings I had said/done (no cheating, abuse or such) and that she felt the relationship was on shaky ground because of this. I feel that if she loved me, valued our relationship and wanted to fight for it like I did, she would have made the effort to talk to me about these to work through them...but she didn't...there was not opportunity given to talk, be angry, vent, listen, forgive, reconcile. I am hurt, very hurt and feel tremendously lonely and abandoned...what do you see?"

Answer
Hi David~

First off, know that all of these feelings you're experiencing are completely normal.  Perhaps she has just distanced herself from you (for quite some time), and she was just going through the motions; with buying the wedding dresses, keeping up the impression that things were hunky-dory, when in reality they weren't.  So she mislead you intentionally, but it became too much, and she finally broke down and came out with the truth.  And she just wanted out b/c she couldn't take it anymore.  That's why I think has happened here, speaking hypothetically--from what you've told me.