Infidelity & Relationship Concerns: Navigating Trust and Communication

Question
I have been with my husband for 12yrs married 8 he has cheated on in the past.And know i just found out he has been talking to a women on the phone for the past month. But nothing sexually. I ask why he said because she say thing to him to give him the big head. So i ask why he couldn,t come to me and talk about this. And she had left a meesage on his phone saying she love him. I had ask him to stop contact with her but it seems likes it hasn,t happen.

Answer
Hi Marshel~

She's saying she loves him?!  Hmm...that's definitely not a good thing.  And if he's cheated on you in the past, this isn't a good sign.  He's not telling you the whole story here, b/c it seems like there is much more going on between them than he's letting you know.  

It's ultimately up to you and what you decide you want to do.  Go with your heart and do what's right for you, and what makes you happy.  If that means you have to end up leaving him, then do so.