QuestionHi Samantha,
4 days ago I discovered that my husband had a secret email address/website where he kept pictures of naked teenagers. what was sick in all this , he had pitctures of all my nieces and girlfriend's daughters too, all of them naked. He said that it is photoshop, he put their faces on naked bodies and share them with other sick people around the world too.
My husband and I we've been married for 8 years and he never was able to perform a full sexual act with me. We've been to counseling after counseling and never worked.
I am writing to you because I am ahsamed for what he did, I am ashamed to speak to my family. I am a foreigner and I am afraid , I don't know what to do... I can't look at my sister/ niece in the face. That's why I am doing nothing for now. I don't kwow what to do. My husband is sleeping now in the guest bedroom. I am afraid to talk to any of my friends here in the States....My husband usually is a very tender loving person. Everybody says to me how much he loves me. I could never thought he is capable of such things. After my awful discovery he felt so bad that he threw up for 2 days and kept going to church and pray. He went one time to couseling and he wants to earn me back.
Honestly, for the time being, I don't see I can forgive him. The only thing is that I am feeling too bad to talk to anyone . I am not used to be alone. I came right from my family's home to my husband home.
I am so alone and I am afraid. Please advise me what to do.
Thank you so much.
pattybrown
AnswerHi Patty~
What he's doing it illegal and he will likely go to jail for. Porn that has minor children in it, should be reported to the police and ASAP. If he'll view porn of underage children on the internet and pass it around to other pedophiles then what makes you think he'll stop at just looking at the child porn. Most offenders like this actually act out their sick fantasies on real children. This is a very serious matter before you. You are obligated by law to turn him into the police and let them deal with him in the proper manner according to the law. He's not only victimizing your nieces and nephews he's victimizing other children. And who's to say they are really photo-shopped as he claims they are. What if they are real?! You owe it to your nieces/nephews and your sibling(s) to tell them the truth and what happened. Your husband is sick and he needs to get some help for this awful and disgusting addiction to porn. Porn leads to other bad things, but child porn is a serious crime.
I can understand and respect that you are hesitant to come forward and tell your family, due to this sensitive nature of the topic. However, this isn't your fault, this was a result of the poor choices and bad decisions that he made, you're not responsible for his actions. Although I can see how you think this might make you look bad b/c you're associated with him by marriage. Don't let that deter you and keep you from turning him over to the authorities and doing the right thing, otherwise, he's going to keep victimizing more children. You need the love and support of your family to get through this. So even though you find this embarrassing and traumatic you must do the right thing and turn him in. He needs professional help and now. I hope this helps you some.
