QuestionMy question is am I crazy?
Why would my husband scream and call be hateful names? Why would he say I hate you and have for years? Why would he follow me to the bedroom to start a fight. Why would he brake the door after I locked it?
He got arrested because I called 911 and now he tells people that I'm a drunk and he did nothing wrong.
Am I crazy?
AnswerHi Michelle,
Sorry you are are having difficulties and are feeling confused.
It's really difficult to answer your questions because there isn't a lot of detail here. What I can tell you is:
1. There is no excuse for the way your husband is acting, and it is IS abusive.
2. People treat others terrible when they feel terrible about themselves.
3. Love is not painful and cruel.
It sounds to me like your husband is a blamer and is not likely to take responsibility for his actions. This would inform me that he is not likely to change anytime soon, because a person can't change what he won't recognize.
Your marriage is unloving and unhealthy and not likely to change as things stand now. You have important decisions to make, my dear.
I hope this helps.
Doctor Becky
