Navigating a Marital Crisis: Infidelity, Counseling, and Rebuilding Trust

Question
I felt as though I fell out of love with my wife several months ago, after being married for fifteen years.  We began counseling, but during counseling, I started an intimate relationship with another woman.  My wife found out and asked me to leave.  A week later, my kids and wife asked me to come home, which I did.  Thing is, I'm not sure I came home for the right reasons...I feel like I did so for our kids, not for my love for my wife.  I have feelings for this other woman and she does for me also.  I know when my wife and I were going through counseling, I couldn't have been invested while seeing someone else.  How do I figure out my feelings and whether I came home for the right reason or not?

Answer
Hey Bryan,

I'm sorry about your dilemma. You need to ask yourself, do you want to repair what you had with your wife and kids? Can you really begin another relationship knowing that you have a lingering one from your past? It seems that you need to do some soul searching Bryan. Even though you seem to think there are possibilities with your new friend, but you have real foundations with your wife and kids. I don't know if your religious or not, but marriages are made to last forever and it's a union brought by God that no man can separate. If you are going to counseling sessions, please also considerhow God views marriages and how biblical view points lead to lasting relationships with real foundations. Sometimes the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

My prayers are with you...

David