QuestionHi
I and this gentlemen have been communicating via online for 3 months now... He has expressed his interest in marrying and can't wait to speak to my father when my family goes to visit.
I really love him and I belive he feels the same... I kept a secret from him for a long time... I have Hep C and today I emailed him and explain how I got it and assured him that he's less likely to get it because it's a rare disease and one can only truly get it through a blood interaction (sharing needles, tattoos blood transfusion). I was going to wait till we were together but I got pressure from my family and friends. they told me I should tell him now... So I did... but I'm not sure if I should have or should have just waited. In the beginning he claimed that I was the one for me and we grew really close but I am wonder how close did we grow and if my illness will break us apart?
My question is- if a person really does care for another person- would an illness break them apart?
Should I have waited till we was together to tell him?
or should I have waited till after the wedding to tell him?
AnswerHi Rabi'a~
Yes, you owe it to him to be honest with him. And if he's either unable or unwilling to be understanding of your illness, then he's not a very respectable man, and not the one for you. That's a chance you'll have to be willing to take.
So the answer to your question is no. If he truly loved and respected you. Then he's be understanding of this. No, you did the right thing to tell him before the marriage.
