Navigating Workplace Dynamics: Secret Santa Gift & Potential Attraction

Question
My wife and her coworker did the secret Santa.  she got this guy that I think she might have a crush on.  I know the guy and he is on his 20s.  I am 30 and she is older than me. Well the present she got him was a bottle of cognac hennessy.  I did not like it but I have not told her yet what I feel.  am I been to sensitive or can she do that?.  I hear her talk about him a lot, about how his car, how he has a cool phone and things like that.  What do you think? what can I do to find out if she has a crush on him?.  Thank you

Answer
Dear Al,
Sometimes women show little mysterious gestures to others only to get some affection from the one whom they are with. Not all, some some women will try to make the other jealous only to make the other show how much they care. If you have any intuition that your wife may be attracted to another, it would be important to confront your wife with questions such as, "Are you happy with our marriage?", or " Would you like to talk about our relationship?" and then tell her your feelings slowly but keep to the point. Women tend to become so much closer with others when the communication is constantly open. More than likely, your wife is testing you since she is telling you all this information. If she was absolutely crazy about this guy, she would not be telling you anything about him, at all. What she is telling you is that she wants a more open, honest communication line with you. If you give her what she want's, at least weekly, then you will not have to go through this again. If you find that this line remains open with her co-worker, and it becomes more serious, than it is better to find out sooner than later. I am doubting that this is the issue from what you are expressing.
Take care and write back if you need!
Kiya