Health vs. Happiness: Navigating a Career Conflict with Your Spouse

Question
I have lived in my current area for 6 years now and I completely hate it due to a lot I can't get into here except that I realize that in this small town I will never be in a career I like here and I don't fit in, and it has very bad memories which I'm reminde of every single day. I was planning to move west where it would be better for my health (I got very sick after I moved here) and my life dream to produce films is the industry but then last January I met my husband and got married this January and stayed here. He started his construction job full time and we bought our first house, then this year I developed a severe rash from the materials he works with, now my child and him are getting it too - but not as bad. I told him I'm very unhappy and I want to move somewhere warmer for my health and more open for my career opportunities,and for him to change his job so we won't be sick - but he says he doesn't want to. He says he wants to be near his friends though he does not see them that much except work, and that he likes this area. Should I feel that he really doesn't love me? For shouldn't a husband place his wife before his work  buddies and location? Should I move to where I would be happier without him? I know I will never feel confortable here, and I'm sick from his work. I don't know how to convince him and don't know why I should anyways, as I believe that I shouldn't have to, though I really prefer not to go without him, though I feel let down as to if he really loves me or not and if I should stay?

Answer
Dear Eliza,
If you tell your husband to change careers for you, he may resent you. I know your health is involved and if it is affecting your family this much, then he is probably thinking there is another way to resolve this so that he does not bring these illnesses home. The other issue at hand is that you are unhappy where you are living and just that within itself could make a person miserable. He may be afraid to leave a good job since he needs to support his family. On the other hand, you only have one life to live, so you should pursue your dreams. In my opinion, it would be wise to apply for employment out west and when something becomes available then do everything you can to meet your needs. Try to keep your mind full of what opportunities could be at hand. You may find that you enjoy something related to the film industry. If you want something bad enough, you will accomplish it, no matter where you are or what condition you are in. It sounds as though you are very motivated which is an asset to employers. Tell your husband that you will do whatever it takes to fulfill your dream and then show him how you are working on it. He will most likely follow once order is in place. Men think differently than women. Many of them can't depend on dreams and they rely on the here and now. It is probable that it is not because he doesn't care for you. I believe that this is something you can do without detriment to your relationship. Just hang in there!
Kiya