QuestionMy husband and i got married last june and while we wanted to take our time in finding the "perfect apt", we moved into his parents, with intention of staying only for 6 months.
Living with the in-laws, who seem so understanding and normal before our marriage really made me regret my decision in agreeing to even stay with them. My mother-in-law is possessive and insensitive while my father-in-law has his own peculiar strange living habits. I had initially put up with them by not sharing my frustrations with my husband until lately when I could not contain my feelings anymore, I sometimes refuse to speak or eat with them and I started complaining to my husband.
However my sharing of these feelings with my husband has in a way distanced us. He simply shuts down when he senses that I am unhappy. Not only will he not make a stand when his posessive mother makes unreasonable request, he now watches TV with her when I watch TV in our own room. He does not call me to check what time I can get home whenever I work late too.
I am really upset. Things have changed so much and I feel that he is no longer that sensitive, caring and protective boyfriend I used to have before we got married. Is it me or is it him? What should I do?
Thank you.
AnswerWell you entered into an arrangement you knew fromt he beginning wasn't right, there is no "perfect" apartment. The sooner you extricate yourselves from this the better. From the parents point, I'm sure you've over stayed your welcome, they just won't say it. HE has much more history with is mother than he does with you, so no doubt if you put him into a taking sides situation, he'll pich her every time. So my advice is to move out as soon as possible. Any apartment will be better, don't you agree?
Bill
