Navigating Romantic Uncertainty: Seeking Advice on a College Relationship

Question
hi mr sharma.i'm in deep trouble plz help me with ur suggestion.i'm in love with a girl in my college since 3 yrs.i tried to talk to her but we just had chats on yahoo and few talks on phone...earlier she said she had a boy friend..i did nt believe that..and then some days after she said i had a broke up....we had few fights and we used to keep quiet for some days then any one of us use to start a conversation again...recently i asked what was in her mind..do u love me? she said i dont want to say yes coz its not in my hands...so i told that i can talk with ur parents..then she said u can, and indirectly said yes..but here at my home my parents are fixing my marraige to a kashmiri girl which i dont know who  she is? i told every thing to my mom clearly and she was like stunned and then she said..i like to see her and then she's also said she wont be my choice,i would not like her..and giving examples of many love marraiges that didnt work....i'm confused.plz help.i'm 20 yrs and she's also same..i told mom that i'll marry 1 yr after completing my engg thats after 2yrs from now..my mom is upset and expressing sentimental expressions .i dont want to hurt my mom and i like to live with her always....what to do plz advice.

Answer
Hi Ahmed, If you love this girl, then you will find ways to convince the whole world.  If it's not love or you are not able to convince others, then just listen to your mom.  Sometimes things don't go smooth as they look, but other side is more green which you are not able to see now. No one can guide you because it's your age, so convince yourself and just be one sided with your mother. Most of the times parents see which i can't see in one pargraph of your question.
Warm wishes
Sharma
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