QuestionMy wife and I have been married for going on 4 years now. We have 3 children and have been happy. We do not fight and generally get along with each other. Just recently my wife has informed me that she is not happy. In the past few months we have both lost a lot of weight and have been going out more. She tells me that I have not changed, I am still the amazing guy she met, she is the one that has changed. She still loves me and does not want to jump to the divorce subject. We have tentatively agreed to live under the same roof in a semi-separation. We will sleep in separate rooms and continue to be in the company of each other. Sexual arrangements have not been discussed, along one another or with other people. I've stated concern about being that couple that says it's ok to sleep with other people just because of a separation. She replied separation means kind of single, not that it means she wants to sleep around. I have some concern regarding seeing other people, but I have expressed to my wife that if it means it will save our marriage I am willing to try anything.
Please help, David Rhodes.
AnswerScott - if there is still love in this relationship, then the two of you need to get to a marriage counselor. This marriage is at a crossroads and there really is no in-between here. Either the marriage is reconciled and rebuilt OR you divorce.
I urge you to reconcile and rebuild your marriage.
I do have a concern about her comments regarding separation meaning "kind of single". Well, that sounds to me like she is either having an affair or contemplating having an affair.
I don't know that, I am just sharing with you my years of experience listening to husbands and wives.
Please get to a counselor right away.
David
