QuestionMy BF of 11 years asked me to marry him. This is after us talking about it for a few months. And after he was forgiven for an affair. I knew it was coming and was so excited. He knows what I want in a proposal and that I am romantic. For months, every time we went out, I dressed up real nice just in case this was the time. One morning when we had a family guest in the house (not a good time) and just after sex, I got out of bed with just my top on, he was returning from the bathroom in his undies. He feel down real hard, I bent down next to him and cried! are you hurt! He grabbed his leg and was moaning. I was so worried all these thoughts were going through my mind.simultaneously he said, "will you marry me" and slipped the ring I already had onto my finger. I said, are you hurt? he said, no, I thought it would be funny. I said, well yes I'll marry you. He hugged me and went back into the bathroom. I guess he had nothing to say. And I guess if I had some sentiments, too bad. Later that day he asked who I told, I said no one yet. and I actually forgot about the proposal throughout the day. It's been 5 days and I haven't shared the news with anyone. a couple days later he told me that he told his work people, and they said how cleaver his proposal was and that how one of the ladies called her husband to tell him how funny it was. Daniel. My BF is a little hopeless, but with this and all the other things he does and doesn't do that are similar to this instance, is there a chance he didn't have any sentiments because he just well, doesn't have any sentiments? I mean, not a single word. Like, I love you
AnswerSome men are emotionally illiterate. You have to accept him as he is or not, because it is unlikely he will change after you are married. I think he cares about you or he would not have thought of such a creative way to propose.
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