Navigating a Difficult Marriage: When is it Time to Consider Separation?

Question
Married with children for 15 years.  Over the past two years, my wife has morphed into an extremely self-centered, non-communicative, disrespectful, indifferent, "you're not the boss of me" bitch.  I am a very patient person and hopeful that she will eventually see her evil ways and somehow change her attitude.  It's a challenge every day to not say - PLEASE LEAVE!  Counseling is not an option.  She has a very simplistic (fantasyland if you ask me) belief that a marriage either works automatically or it doesn't.  Is it over?

Oscar

Answer
Hi Oscar~

It's over if she refuses to see the error of her ways, and will not change.  A person can only take so much of something before they break.  The question here is when is your breaking point?  You can't be in a one-sided marriage and expect it to last happily ever after.  It's not going to happen.  Now you have to decide what you want to do with the marriage.