Dealing with an Immature and Angry Alcoholic Husband: Seeking Support

Question
Having a very difficult time controlling my anger.  I am not an angry person by nature but my husband is.  He is the an alcoholic with anger & negativity issues.  He is an immature father & husband.  I could write a novel on his behavior and the things we've been through the last 15 years that we've been together.  I feel stuck because I do not earn enough money to leave him and we have a 12 years old son together.  We've been through counseling on more than one occasion.  Nothing seems to work.  He continually breaks his promises and resorts to his childish behavior.  I know deep down that he will not change because he feels that I will stay and continue to take it. I truly can not stand the sight of him sometimes.  Our son has communicated on more than one occasion his displeasure of his father's behavior but my husband only blames me for our son's negative opinion of him.  Kids are smarter than some adults give them credit for so our son knows full well who the antagonist is.  I'm at ropes end!  What should I do and how???

Answer
Hi Julie~

You need to make a choice as to whether you're going to stay and keep accepting his abusive ways towards you and the negativity that he expel on your son.  Or if you're finally tired of his crap and you're ready, willing and able to finally do something about it beside complain about it.  You have to make some tough decisions on what's in the best interest of you and your precious son.  You both do not deserve the treatment that your husband is putting you both through.  His behavior towards you is rude, crude and it's unacceptable.  You seem like a very smart and capable person of taking matters into your own hands and finally doing something about this unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling marriage that you're in.  It doesn't have to be this way unless you want it to be.  It's going to take you deciding when you've finally had enough and you're not going to take this abuse from him anymore.  You'll have to learn to be able to provide for you and your son on your own.  The choice is yours and it's one that only you can make.