Questionmy husband told me that he is not sure if he loves me or not because he still thinks in his ex-wife but he ask for time to tell me and answer i do love him should i waited for his decision or left him before he left me?
AnswerHi Adriana~
How long has he realized that he might still be in love with his ex-wife? Is this just something that he decided recently? Or has it been over a period of time? It's not uncommon for a person to still have feelings for an ex-love. Especially if they were married and have children in common.
After all he did divorce her for a reason. Why would he want her back (if that's the case with him)? I think you need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know exactly how this is affecting you. And what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage.
I would also suggest that you seek some marriage counseling if he's willing to do so. This way you can figure out why he's feeling this way and what prompted him to start having these feelings for her. Maybe he's remembering the time that they shared together and the time they were married. Whatever his reasons are, he's feeling them for a reason, the question is why?
You could also bring up the subject of a trial separation. And see if want to even continue being in the marriage. You should sit down and think long and hard of what you want out of the marriage and what you need, want and desire from him as your husband. If he's either unwilling or unable to give you what you want/need then perhaps going your separate ways would be better for both of you in the long run. That's a decision only you can make and try to prepare yourself for it going either way.
