Navigating Parental Opposition to Marriage: A Relationship Dilemma

Question
Hey !! I don't know how to start but I've got this serious and biggest problem in my life, I am into a relationship with this Girl since past 5 year now, everything is good between us except few very minor issues,we love each other like crazy and we know we are best for each other the only problem is my parents are against our marriage whereas her parents don't have any objections.. I was sure enough that my parents will agree to it but its getting real hard to convence them,I've tried every possible way but it seems like they have this inset that i can't change.i have a younger sister and my parents want her to get married first and which i know will take alot of time but my girl's parents don't wanna wait coz she's almost of my age just 3-4 months younger to me..Now the problem that i have is i just cant stay without her and can't even think of anymoment without her..but her parents want her to get married ASAP .please suggest what shall we do coz it can ruin my entire life and my future.

Answer
Hi John~

I assume this would be a love marriage.  I'm very familiar with India cultures and the marriage and family values, etc.  The point here is your parents are going to think whatever they like of her no matter what you say to them or what you try to convince them of.  You are the one that has to live your life, to be married to this girl that you love and want to spend the rest of your days with.  That is what truly matters in the end.  Your parents can not live your life, only you can do this.  I understand and respect that parents only want what's in the best interest of their children.  But as parents, we sometimes have to let go and let our children lead their own lives and make their own choices, no matter as to whether we agree with them or not.  They should be happy for you and encourage the marriage between you and this girl.  It's much better than being paired in an arranged marriage and marrying someone you just do not love.  The choice is yours and it's one that only you can make.  Everyone else is being supportive to you and your girlfriend, perhaps your parents will eventually come around and see thing from your point of view, or maybe they won't.  You have to be happy in life not to go by what your parents always say and what they want.  You can respectfully disagree with them, but go with your heart and do what's right for you and what makes you happy in the end.  If that's to marry and be with her forever, then by all means do it.  Your parents will always be your parents and they will love you no matter what.  I hope this helps you some.