Navigating a Difficult Relationship: He's Engaged - Seeking Guidance

Question
Hi, I have been with a guy for 5 years we can't live without each other. About 2 years after we met he talked to his parents and they said no to me and they set him up with another girl. now they are engaged to be married, she lives in a another country so they don't meet. we are still seeing each other because we can't seperate, we tried so many times. the other day i decided to call his parents my self as his attempts didnt work. his dad was very scary and strict and i knew i could never convince him to change his mind. what should we do? what can we possibly say to his parents to get them to change their mind?

Answer
Hi Mandip~

They can't force him to marry someone else.  He has to refuse to marry this other girl, otherwise his parents may try to make him go through with a marriage.  In Canada there are laws that protect a person's rights, including not being forced to do something they don't want to do.  He's his own person and he has free will and choices to make for himself.  The only way they can influence him to marry this other girl is if he agrees to go along with it and marry her.  And if that's the case then it's not meant to be with him (meaning your relationship), if he'll choose his parents over you.  

He can respectfully decline/refuse to marry this other girl.  His parents can't tell him what to do as long as he's over 18 in Canada.  He's his own person and can make choices and decisions of his own accord.  The same for you.  Of course his parents will probably be very mad and angry at him for refusing, and they may not want to have anything to do with him for a while.  If his parents are this controlling and forceful can you imagine what they are like to be around.  I couldn't imagine trying to be around them and do things with them.  You both have some tough decisions to make.  If you want to be together then fight to be together.  His parents aren't the ones that are going to have to live his life, he is.  He has to be the one to tell them all this.  I doubt you'll be able to change their minds no matter what you say or how much you try to convince them otherwise, they have their strong opinions and it's likely they are set in their ways.