Navigating Trust Issues in a New Relationship: A Guide for Young Adults

Question
i hope its ok that this is more of a relationship question. I'm not married but I've found the girl for me. I'm 21 years old and i always told myself i would know when i found the right girl. my girlfriend is 20. we have only been together for 6 months and i love her so much and i know she love me too. but right now she is having trust issues with me because over who i was before we met. and i lied to her about it. only because i didnt want her to see the bad person i was. i wanted he to see the guy she made me into which is the guy i want to be. she tells me she wants to be with me for the rest of her life and i want the same but she tends to get very upset with me for almost nothing at all. she says she trusts me but i can feel that she doesn't. she says she is happy but never smiles. i do everything i can to make her feel special and to make her happy. I've been getting frustrated with the fighting and i want it to stop and for her to be happy. i feel like i have tried everything (all the way up to fighting back) but nothing works. I'm not blaming her i must be doing something wrong. any ideas on what i could do to fix this. i feel like the girl of my dreams is slipping threw my fingers. ill do everything it takes.

I'm sorry i forgot to mention we are in a long distance relationship. but we see eachother all the time.
thanks for your help.

Answer
Hi Drew~

Perhaps it's the distance in the relationship that's causing the problems for her.  Even though you see her on a regular basis.  And she doesn't know how to tell you.  

I would say sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with her about this.  Some suggestions you could bring up with her to fix these issues.  #1 Move closer to each other, if distance is the problem.  #2 Go to couples therapy, so that you can figure out what other issues or problems are in your relationship, so that they can be worked on.