QuestionDear Rhodes,
I liked your response to the guy who loved a older woman. I am in a similar situation, she is 39, i am 31 and she has a 8 year old son whom i love and who equally loves me. I have considered all the odds and i think i am ready to go on with the marriage arrangement. Is there a likelihood that in future, she may feel like getting back to the father of her son? She has been communicating to him because the boy insists on talking to the father though they do not meet.What is the worst that can happen?
AnswerHello Felix:
It sounds like you are committed to this relationship. What seems to be bothering you is the the depth to which you believe she is committed.
Honestly, this sounds like a pretty healthy arrangement and the odds of her reconnecting with the boys father are slim. Trust her.
The most powerful thing you can do for the boy is to encourage and assist him in staying in touch with his biological dad - to the extent he wants to.
He will will forever love and respect you for putting his needs above your own. There is really not much that is more powerful than that.
And the bonus is that the woman you love will see and value your selflessness.
Keep your chin up and stay positive. It will pay off for you in the long run.
David
