Separation to Divorce & Reconciliation: Understanding the Odds

Question
my question is what are the percentages of people who get seperated end up in divorce. what is the likelyhood if we get back together of having problems in the future.by the way we have no children together but do have two from previos marriage.wife said she needs space.

Answer
Hi Landon~

There's usually a 50-50 chance that this could happen, by either going your separate ways or getting back together after a separation.  A separation can end up pulling you further apart or it can actually bring you closer together.  Now once you get back together, if you've not worked on and fixed the problems prior to your separation, then that's different.  Some ppl get back together b/c of guilt, they miss each other, or for whatever their personal reasons, and it still ends up not working out b/c they didn't address and work on their problems, or the same problems occur and they don't really know how to work their problems/issues out.  

With her saying she needs space she might just need a break from you and the marriage to clear her head.  Or she might be saying she's done and she needs to be by herself and doesn't want to tell you fully that she's really wanting to stay gone and not get back together.  I'm not saying she actually feels the latter, but it's certainly possible.  You need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her.  She needs to know how this is affecting you.  And what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage.  You could even suggest that you both go to marriage counseling to work all these issues out.  And to come together and do whatever it takes to make it work.  This of course will take some time, energy and patience on both parts.  Only time will truly tell what will become of this marriage, don't give up that easily though.  Good luck and hopefully things will work out in the end.