Is My Wife Cheating? Signs, Advice & Coping Strategies

Question
My wife and I will be married for 3 years in July, but I don't think we will make it.  A couple of months ago she changed jobs and started acting different. I can't get out of my head that she is cheating. She goes out with her friends and doesn't come home until early the next morning.  She has told me we should get a seperation to see how it works out not a divorce right away.  She has been wanting less time with me and more with her friends and says I should go out with my friends more also. I don't know if she is feeling smothered and wants to get away from me or what.  When I ask if she is seeing another person she just tells me " I wouldn't do that to you".  please help I want to save my marriage I love her more than ever what can I do to make her change her mind?  

Answer
Usually when people spend "unverifiable" time away from spouses there is someone else involved. An easy test is to say "OK honey I'll meet you there later" and see how it goes. But you can't live the way you are so take her up on the seperation and see how it goes. The fact that she is the initiator will help in divorce court. The only way you can save the marriage at this point is if she is spurned by the new person and wants to come back. Then you'll have to decide what to do. Usually people that look for comfort outside of the marriage will continue to do so, so beware.

Bill