Navigating a New Relationship: Considerations for a Committed Future

Question
Hello. hereit is. I am a 31 year old, never married. I met a wonderful, 34 yr old single mother 3 months ago. She has raised the child by herself as the father dosen't care. I have fallen in love with both her and her son. She too was never married either. She says she loves me and eants to marry me right away! Here's what's going on. She needs to move as she lives in a studio that she sublet from a friend who was out of town. That friend is back and she needs to move, and that would entail her rooming with this friend and we would have to wait a year which she would rather not wait for. (although she says she will if necessary.) i feel ready to give up my place and do it however we have only been together a short while. My only argument is that i want to make sure we have established a foundation for which the realationship to evolve. Is just going for it a good idea or is it usually best to not "Rush in". She is so good to me.I want the best for all three of us. Any insight would help. Thank you so much.
Drew

Answer
Hi Drew~

It's never a good idea to rush into a marriage, unless you feel you're absolutely ready.  The same for her, if she has any doubts of marriage, it's best to wait.  You should never make a rash decision to do something so very serious (especially with the high rate of divorce in this country).  Relationships have been known to change once a couple gets married.  That's not uncommon to happen.  It either gets worse or better.  

My best advice to you though, is to go with your heart and do what's right for you.  Whatever feels right and makes you happy.  That's what really matters.